Our second son Theo was born 1 day late after a very quick labour and waterbirth. We had no
obvious problems with Theo until he started to walk. A few days after he walked for the 1st
time he woke one morning very unsettled and wouldn't and couldn't put any weight on his right
leg. I took him to A&E as it wasn't normal for him. He had a red rash up his leg and the
hospital took a xray and said he had a slight fracture to his big toe and it will heal and
to give him ibuprofen. Theo didn't begin to walk again for about 12 days. A few months
later the same thing happened and I was told it was 'soft tissue' damage and ibuprofen,
again he didn't walk for 1 week. We had an issue with his arm and the Dr told me he had
got into a habit of holding it bent and there was no problem. I believed them as they
seemed to fix themselves.
Then at 22 months Theo fell down the stairs at home. Looking back and with hindsight,
I would have taken him to hospital quicker but I didn't. There was no blood but a big
bump came up. The following day we took him to hospital as the bruising had got so much
worse and he couldn't now put weight on his right leg. As soon as we were taken in,
it was obvious they didn't believe us that he had fallen down the stairs as the
'bruising wasn't that expected of a stair fall'.
He was admitted and I then went in and swapped with my husband as I wanted to stay the
night with him. It was then I was asked if there was any history of bleeding disorders.
Now this now sounds silly but I didn't know anything about haemophilia and the genetics of it,
so I said 'oh I think my Grandad had Haemophilia but he had it with a question mark on his
death certificate. He died in 1957 on the operating table'. New bloods were done and low and
behold it came back that he had Severe A Haemophilia. It was a total shock. I was distraught
and not knowing anything about the condition looking on Google made me even more upset. Knowing
those times with him not walking were 'joint bleeds' and we should never give him ibuprofen.
I felt so very guilty.
Fast forward a month and we were under the care of St.George's and our favourite ever nurse took
us under her wing and helped us through the next few tough months of Theo having a port fitted
and being trained up to do Theo's treatment at home.
Fast forward now 5 years and Theo turned 7 in April and he still has the same port working well
after 5 years and is off to junior school. We've dealt with Theo's needle phobia which was very
stressful and pushed my husband and I to the limit of refusing to give Theo his treatment unless
he had a bleed. Luckily that is all sorted now and we have a happy, crazy boy who I wouldn't
change for the world.
Haemophilia does not and will not define Theo. Haemophilia lives with Theo and not the other way
around. He is my little bleeder and a true superhero.